Many, if not most of us, are in some way struggling. Whether we’re dealing with shame, insecurity, grief, addiction, anxiety or the heavy weight of feeling lost in life— we’re hurting inside. Unfortunately, most of us have become so uncomfortably comfortable living this way that we understand it as normal.
It doesn’t have to be this way. You don’t need to waste any more precious moments of your life believing that you deserve to suffer or be held back from feeling empowered in your life, your body and your heart.
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“Katie Gray’s methodology is the most emotionally supportive information I have ever come across. I have witnessed quite a few women, myself included, transform and become more aware with the integration of these tools. I am so grateful that this material is available to reference now! Looking forward to going deeper in this work and eager to share it with others.”
The Empowered Heart is a methodology (+ book & online community) that helps assist people through the process of identifying and healing emotional pain and discomfort residing from unresolved trauma.
Rather than turning away from the pain, we face towards it so as to understand it and fully overcome it.
Because the ultimate goal in doing this work is to bring us Home to our true selves (the beating heart of light and sacred pureness within us) the cycle (& diagram) begins and ends with the Heart.
Then, the painful Wounds and occurrences that happened in our lives and the lineage of Pain, Need, Protection and Defense we have learned to endure in order to deal with the discomfort from those original traumas. Eventually, finding ourselves in a prolonged state of Suffering.
It’s here in these initial stages that we transcend out from the Home of our hearts to the realms of Experience & Avoidance of trauma, eventually residing in a state of suffering.
THE STAGES OF SUFFERING
HEART : The whole, trusting, honest and loving essence of our true selves.
WOUND : The traumatic woundings (abuse, death, loss, divorce, etc.) that impact our tender hearts.
PAIN : The feelings of discomfort, sadness, insecurity and pain resulting from those wounds.
NEED : Our necessary response to being hurt— the need to heal, soothe and ease the pain.
PROTECTION : Our attempt at caring for ourselves by disconnecting from the sensations of pain when our needs for relief and healing aren’t met.
DEFENSE : The state of aggression and outward protection we embody so as to keep our hurting hearts protected and safe.
SUFFERING : The painful result of being disconnected from our true Selves and the World around us.
Once we have a full understanding of what happened in order to get us to the place of struggle and suffering, we then turn things around through the act of realization (“I’m done struggling and suffering through life”) and enter fully into the Steps of Empowerment. It’s here that we enter into the phases of Awareness & Resolution.
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THE STEPS OF EMPOWERMENT
OBSERVE : The necessary act of witnessing what happened in the past (looking at the wounds) and consciously acknowledging what’s happening right now.
FEEL : Bringing ourselves back to our senses by re-awakening our ability to feel the tender emotions (pain and fear) that lie beneath the surface of protection and defense.
CONNECT : Giving ourselves permission to explore trust and engage more deeply with our selves and those around us.
RELEASE : Allowing ourselves to speak, cry, express and emote the honest feelings and withheld energies within us.
COMFORT : Embracing vulnerability by allowing ourselves to be internally and externally comfortable in receiving constructive forms of comfort and soothing relief.
LOVE : Understanding and embracing the power of forgiveness and compassion, while also practicing self respect through discernment.
EMPOWERMENT : The result of being self aware, forgiving, compassionate and confident in our ability to remain connected to our authentic and true selves through the twists and turns of life.
Through looking at our wounds and giving ourselves permission to feel the deeper feelings beneath the exterior shell of ego and Protection, we’re able to better understand where the pain is coming from and what we Need to feel better. As we obtain the ability to more clearly understand our needs, we’re then able to break the cycle of Suffering by consciously being with our Wounds (instead of avoiding them), understanding our Pain and taking continual action to get our needs met. In most cases, what we need is Connection, Release, Comfort & Love.
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